Holistic Lactation: Latching Tips for a Pain-Free Breastfeeding Experience

Breastfeeding is often described as natural, but that does not mean it always comes naturally. Many mothers are surprised when what is supposed to be instinctive turns into discomfort, frustration, or tears for both them and their babies.

Breastfeeding is often described as natural, but that does not mean it always comes naturally. Many mothers are surprised when what is supposed to be instinctive turns into discomfort, frustration, or tears for both them and their babies.

The truth is that a deep, pain-free latch is not just a mechanical skill. It is a state of regulation between mom and baby.

When both are calm, connected, and attuned to each other, the body responds differently. Milk flows more easily. The baby’s jaw and tongue coordinate more efficiently. The mother’s body relaxes and lets down without resistance.

This is why, in holistic lactation care, we do not begin by simply fixing the latch. We start by focusing on regulation.

Mom’s Regulation: Your nervous system influences your milk flow, your patience at the breast, and even how your baby senses safety. Taking a few deep breaths before latching, practicing grounding, or simply finding a quiet space can help reset your body’s rhythm.

Baby’s Regulation: Babies also need help unwinding before a feed. Gentle infant massage, skin-to-skin contact, or soft humming can support their nervous system and prepare their body for coordinated sucking and swallowing.

When both mom and baby are regulated, a deep latch becomes a natural outcome rather than something that feels forced.

If you have been struggling with painful latching, it is not a sign that your body is broken or that your baby cannot do it. Often, it means that both of you simply need time, calm, and connection to re-sync.

Breastfeeding is as much about nervous system harmony as it is about positioning.

That is the heart of a holistic approach—supporting both mom and baby as a whole in body, mind, and emotion so that feeding feels peaceful and nourishing again.

For More Holistic Breastfeeding Support

If you are ready to feel confident and calm at the breast, explore the Latch & Nourish Masterclass. This on-demand guide provides holistic breastfeeding support designed to help you understand your baby’s cues, improve latch, and restore peace to your nursing journey.

Learn more here!

By: MiKaylan Cushing, CLC/CNMI